Valentine’s Day is like final exams for many relationships, and it’s often Pass/Fail. In the course of my romantic life, I’ve experienced some failing grades:
…The guy who ignored Valentine’s Day because it was “a made-up holiday.” All it meant was that he was lazy and selfish. Dude, they’re all made up holidays! This guy never led by example; he never told me he didn’t want anything for birthdays and Christmas. He had the nerve to get all pouty when I said they were all made up holidays and so I didn’t get him anything.
…the guy who thought a relationship is a perpetual motion machine. He thought once it started it would keep going all by itself. Um, no. It takes effort…by both parties.
And I’m not blameless here, either. I learned, the hard way, never to cook a romantic dinner naked. Trust me on this one.
But that’s me – how about you? What are your lessons and wisdom about romance? Who got a ‘Fail’? Who got a pass? Let us know in the comments!
Virge Randall is Senior Planet’s Managing Editor. She is also a freelance culture reporter who seeks out hidden gems and unsung (or undersung) treasures for Straus Newspapers; her blog “Don’t Get Me Started” puts a quirky new spin on Old School New York City. Send Open Thread suggestions to editor@seniorplanet.org.
